NLP: More than a lekker party trick!
Chocolate season has come and gone, leaving many of us wishing it had never come at all. If only there were a way to programme ourselves… Uh, hang on.
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) suggests that by strategically adapting how you speak, think and behave, you can ‘programme’ yourself to do - or not do - all sorts of things. Achieve your goals. Manipulate others. Rule the world.
So were we.
We dug in and discovered that our language and behaviour can affect the thinking and behaviour of others. What a valuable mindset (and propaganda) tool.
THE KEY BASICS
1. Use positive language.
Yes, yes. Obvious, right? But it works. Don’t say, ‘If you don’t submit this document on time, there’ll be consequences.’ Say, ‘By submitting this document on time, you’ll be in a better position to…’. Focus your language upwards, on a goal.
2. Can’t is a decision.
There’s usually a way. In the events industry, this is truer than true. So, in most cases, an individual is not a helpless victim who ‘can’t’ do something; what we mean by ‘I can’t’ is ‘I won’t, because…’. Focus on how you can – or learn to say no.
3. You’re not there… yet.
If you’re having a hard time achieving a goal, transform your mindset by including the word ‘yet’. For instance: ‘I haven’t achieved my target… yet.’
4. Think with abundance.
Want a raise? A new job? A chocolate egg? (So do we. Well, only the chocolate egg.) By thinking about what you want as if you already have it, your behaviour and the people around you adapt to make it more achievable; i.e. self-fulfilling prophecy.
5. Don’t ‘try’… Just do.
‘Trying’ to do something means you might not do it; it acknowledges, and therefore allows room for, quitting. ‘Do, or do not do,’ to paraphrase Yoda. There is no ‘try’.
6. The ‘and’ in sandwich.
When giving feedback, use the feedback sandwich: Start with a positive affirmation, follow with areas for development, and close with another positive. Don’t say, ‘You did well here, but this is where you can improve’. Say, ‘You did well here, and this is where you can improve’. This ensures that the affirmation isn’t negated.
Bottom line? Mind control isn’t just a party trick. With the right training and execution, you can have a marked impact on how you think and behave; channelling your business (and the universe, bwahaha!) in the direction you want it to go.
Also, the chocolate eggs won’t stand a chance next time Easter rolls around.